On my way to my doctor’s appointment, yesterday, I sat in the passenger seat listening to our local Southern Gospel radio station with my mom. Well, kinda of listening but not really. My thoughts and focus elsewhere. If you were to ask me right now what I had been thinking on or focusing on I couldn’t tell you. Obviously nothing important as tends to happen with me. Often too focused on or thinking about nothing important. As we neared my doctors, stopping at a red light, the singer on the radio managed to pull my attention away from the window I stared out. His words grabbing and sinking into me with a force I immediately took out my pen and a piece of scrap paper to scribble down his lyrics. I have no idea what the song was about, or what any of his other lyrics said, but the ones I heard were pretty powerful. Worthy of hearing and sharing. Important to share with others in a crazy hectic world full of violence, hatred, and darkness. Where what we say can either give life or death to the souls of those around us.
We were called to go forth and multiply
we were called to go forth and give life
As I mentioned to a group of family and friends last night. There’s more than one way to go forth and give life. And carrying a child, as I am, is just one of them. But God has given us many ways to go forth and multiply. Words being one of them.
The other night I was talking to one of my brothers, who recently gave his life to God. He’d just returned home to one of our other brothers where he stays and was having some problems. “I just feel like all of the joy I had has just been sucked out of me.” As he spoke on he started making some comments about certain individuals and how he didn’t understand their ways. After he was finished with his current train of negative thoughts I interrupted him before he could start down another negative thought path. Reminding him that we have to be careful with our words, especially about loved ones, because what we say has power. We can build up or tear down each other and God wants us to build each other. Don’t focus on the negative. “You are the light in that house now, you are surrounded by darkness, it’s your job to restore even more light. Instead of complaining about what was or wasn’t done do something else. The kids let the laundry pile up, instead of telling them to do it or telling their parents on them wash and fold a few loads. If the kids aren’t doing their chores don’t rat them out or complain to their parents. Just throw some dishes in the washer and sweep the floor once or twice. You’re going to get tired of hearing me say this but pray for them. Just pray.”
After some more talking, he admitted that he would like to take the kids fishing with him but knew that they wouldn’t. He wants a closer relationship with them. “Here’s what you do.” I told him, “We both know that they aren’t often invited to go somewhere or to participate with adults, which is why they act the way they do. They want attention and they’ll do what they deem necessary to get it, even if it’s not good attention. If you want to take them fishing ask their parents first, just be like ‘hey, would you guys mind if I took the kids fishing with me?’ and if they say yes, then go ask the kids. If they (the kids) say no it’s okay. Don’t take it personally. You are making a step to change relationships with those there, and to get your family more involved in things.”
Then he mentioned that he didn’t have to work Saturdays or Sundays, of course, I invited him to come up on those days to just get away and attend church with us on those days. The drive is an undesirable one for many we invite over for a visit so I didn’t take his decline personally. “I can start going to a church around here though.” Which would be awesome and good for him. “The only person who goes to church here every now and then is Bug, but I think she just does it to get away.”
“Don’t worry about why she’s going, just be happy that she does go… I have an idea! Why don’t you invite her to go with you on Sunday!” These two have the biggest struggle with butting heads. So this would be a good way to bridge the gap that’s between them.
“She won’t go with me.”
“You don’t know that. Just ask her. If she says no, then, you did your part. And it doesn’t matter if she’s going just to get out of the house. But before you ask her, ask her parents if they would mind if she went to church with you if she wanted to. It’s important to include them as well as the kids in these things that you want to do. Don’t ask me why it just is…. no matter what though, just pray for them.”
I try to always encourage someone to speak life/light rather than death/darkness. God’s word tells us to watch our words because of the power they hold.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” —Proverbs 18:21 KJV
“There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health.” —Proverbs 12:18
“A wholesome tongue is a tree of life: but perverseness therein is a breach in the spirit.” —Proverbs 15:4
“Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile.” —Psalm 34:13
As the unknown song said. We were called to go forth and multiply, we were called to go forth and give life.
♥† Jessica Quinn